It’s Father’s Day on Sunday! Boomer Dads Have Been Fully Engaged with Their Kids Right from the Start!

I am married to the most amazing husband anyone could ever ask for and the most wonderful father a kid could ever want! I say this not just because it is Father’s Day on Sunday, but simply because it’s true. Our four children have been blessed by a father who has been fully involved in their lives right from the moment they drew their first breath. And not just the fun stuff like taking them to the park every evening after supper, reading them bedtime stories, coaching their soccer games, or taking them to basketball and hockey and choir. Richard often helped to feed them and bathe them, to get them ready for bed, and even changed their nappies. When our first child was born, the older nurse at the little hospital in St. Marys ON, where Alexandra let out her first cry one bitterly cold winter’s morn, said she was amazed that Richard actually wanted to be there when she showed me how to bathe our baby. Apparently she had never had any father who showed a real interest in the more practical aspects of parenting.

Today of course many Dads take a more active role in caring for their little ones. It is not uncommon to see Dads pushing the stroller or baby pram — I never saw this when I was growing up in the late 50’s and 60’s. That was Mom’s job. But in the 70’s and 80’s, when Boomers started to become parents themselves, things began to change. More Dads, like Richard, decided that they wanted to play more of a role in their young children’s lives. Nowadays it is not uncommon to see Dads do all the things that used to be done solely by our mothers. Many fathers take parental leaves as well so that they can stay home and take care of their infants.

And now that many Boomer men are becoming grandfathers, I see even greater involvement in the lives of their grandchildren. Often retired or semi-retired, these Boomer grandfathers have more time to spend with their grandchildren and are enjoying every minute of it!

This is not to say that many pre-Boomers have not been good parents. I have known many older men who have been loving and devoted fathers. My own Dad would be 104 now if he were still living, and he was always interested in everything my brother and I did and would often play ball with us in the backyard or teach us how to skate. But he was usually the only father in the school auditorium who came to watch opening exercises when his children were giving the welcome. Not only was that not cool back then, but most fathers did not have the kinds of jobs that would have allowed them to go into work a half hour late so that they could get to their kids’ performances. That said, Dad never changed a diaper or prepared our meals.

This is simply to point out that we have come a long way. So hats off to our Boomer Dads and Grandfathers, and hats off also to all the Dads and Grandfathers who have given us a human face to God’s love!

Canadian Boomers and Addictions

Did you know that a growing number of Canadian Boomers suffer from substance abuse? Years ago it was much more common for addiction centres to treat people who were mostly in their 20’s and 30’s. Now older adults are increasingly seeking help for alcohol and prescription drug abuse.  Some are also returning to drugs they used back in their teens and young adult years.

Why are treatment centres seeing an increase in substance abuse among Boomers and older adults? The primary triggers are loneliness, the death of a loved one, retirement and health issues.

According to the Edgewood Health Network, there are several signs you should look for if you think you or someone you love is suffering from a substance abuse problem:

  • – Changes in sleep patterns
  • – Lack of personal hygiene
  • – Mood changes such as irritability, depression and anxiety
  • – Mental confusion
  • – Changes in eating patterns (eating more or not eating at all)
  • – Falling and injuring themselves more often

At Canadian Boomerfest 2018, one of the topics we will explore will centre around mental health. Dr. Paul Links will address the topic of “Men at Risk”. Dr. Jane Keupfer will lead us in a workshop on how to care for yourself while caring for others, since the demands of being a caregiver can place very real stress on Canadian Boomers. Former Moderator of the United Church of Canada, Mardi Tindal, will talk about how to live independently while being inter-dependent — an important topic since relationships in retirement are key to a healthy second half of life.

Please join us at 7 p.m. Wednesday, October 17th to Friday, October 19th at 3 p.m. at Siloam United Church for the inaugural Canadian Boomerfest 2018!


Canadian Boomerfest Explores Healthy Living Arrangements

Thanks to my friend Maria for sharing this wonderful video about alternative housing for Boomers and older adults, which recounts how three single Boomer women in London, ON have chosen to buy a house together, not only to share expenses, but also for companionship. This is something that more and more Boomers are trying, sometimes to reduce their carbon footprint, sometimes to reduce living expenses, and always in order to maintain healthy relationships.

In his study about men and aging, Harvard psychiatrist and aging specialist George Vaillant discovered that the number one factor in healthy aging is “relationships, relationships, relationships”. As one of the women in the above video says, when you live alone you can sometimes go for hours without ever talking to another human being. That’s not healthy. Studies show that even very introverted people are healthier when they are in relationship with others.

This October former Moderator of the United Church of Canada Mardi Tindal will be talking about her experience of shared living arrangements at Canadian Boomerfest 2018. Mardi and her husband have recently bought a house together with other couples who recognise the value of living together and sharing housing with one another. Mardi says that, as they age, this is a way for her and her partner to continue to live independently through interdependence. Come and hear about Mardi’s experiences at Canadian Boomerfest 2018, October 17th to 19th, Siloam United Church, and learn how you too can maintain a healthy independence as you age through living life interdependently.



The United Church of Canada Foundation Supports Canadian Boomerfest 2018 — a unique, first-of-its-kind event in Canada!

Had a great conversation with the members of the of the United Church of Canada Foundation this morning and felt very encouraged by their support of my research (The McGeachy Senior Scholarship) and their enthusiastic feedback on my book, Re-Designing Your Life: A Practical Spirituality for the Second Half of Life, as well as the videos that go with it. I am pleased to report their excitement also for Canadian Boomerfest, which the Foundation has also generously supported through the Alfred J. Mitchell Fund.

For those of you who have had a chance to look at the book, you will notice that I use the metaphor of home renovations to frame my discussion of the second half of life and how we answer God’s call when many of us may be retired or semi-retired or find ourselves as empty-nesters. Years ago not many of us got a chance to have a long retirement; but now, with advances in medical science, more of us in Canada are living an extra twenty to thirty years beyond what we used to think of as normal retirement age.

Cultural anthropologist Catherine Bateson’s says that these extra years have not been tacked on to the end of life but can be thought of as a kind of atrium at the center of our lives, a time when most are still active and healthy and have much to share. In the book I try to look at some of the challenges we face as we enter the second half of life, particularly the transitions we undergo. By this time of life, many of us, for example, have known loss: the death of parents, partners, or siblings; possibly the end of a marriage or a partner suffering from Alzheimer’s; the loss of a job that brought meaning to our lives, whether through downsizing or our choice to retire. The questions we seek answers to are profoundly spiritual: Who am I now that I am no longer defined by my job, my partner, or my children? Where is God calling me to serve?

A lot of us Boomers find ourselves in the Sandwich generation, having to juggle the needs of frail, elderly parents, full or part-time work, and still helping adult children or caring for young grandchildren — all the while, trying to find ways to care for ourselves and nurture our own spirit.

This is why I am also very excited about the other project that the Foundation has generously supported, Canadian Boomerfest: A Colloquium and Celebration on Boomers and Spirituality! We have a wonderful group of speakers and workshop leaders who will be addressing many of these issues that so many of us face as we enter into the second half of life: growing our spirituality and learning new spiritual practices as we age; caring for ourselves while caring for others; learning about the risks to our emotional well-being and developing a strong ecology of health, especially good mental health; new rituals and new living arrangements for the second half of life; and how we as a community of faith can better connect to the younger generations and leave a valuable spiritual legacy.

Hope to see you there! October 17th to 19th, Siloam United Church, 1240 Fanshawe Park Road East, London, Ontario.   


Canadian Boomerfest Can Help You to Care for Yourself While Caring for Elderly Mothers and Fathers

It’s been nearly 22 years since I said goodbye to my wonderful mother. There is not a day goes by that I don’t think of her or that I don’t miss her. More and more, I see her staring back at me in the bathroom mirror!

Sheila’s mother, Elsie, with granddaughter Alexandra

One of the things I deeply regret is not having been there for her in her final months and years of failing health when I could have been of more support to her. Not only did I live nearly three hours away then, but I also had three small children and a full-time job in ministry. In the church we say that half-time is full-time and full-time is really overtime, so you know how busy I was!

Most of my Boomer friends have had their parents far longer, but because my mother and father did not have their children until late in life, they have not been here to see my children grow up. Mom did not even know our youngest, who was born the year after she died.

But if my Boomer friends are getting to enjoy more time with Mom and Dad, they are also often facing similar challenges. Some live considerable distances from their aging parents, which makes it difficult to care for them properly. Some are caring for grandchildren while still holding down full or part-time jobs. Some are also caring for partners who are not well. One Boomer friend told me that over the last three years she has been running back and forth between two different hospitals in two different cities, as she has tried to visit her mother in one hospital and her husband in another.

Sheila with her mother, Elsie, on her wedding day

At this Fall’s Canadian Boomerfest, this is one of the challenges we will try to address: how to care for yourself while caring for older parents, partners who may be suffering from ill health, or grandchildren — sometimes juggling all three at once!  This is why we call Boomers the Sandwich Generation. An important question for those working in health care or providing leadership in our faith communities is how do we support older adults in their quest for spiritual health and wholeness while seeking to care for the caregiver? There is no question that the longevity revolution parallels the care-giving wave. These are some of the concerns we will address at Canadian Boomerfest 2018.

Please join us at Canadian Boomerfest 2018 from October 17th to 19th, Siloam United Church, 1240 Fanshawe Road East, London, ON! See you there!

Register Soon to Ensure Your Place at Boomerfest 2018!

Folks are already registering for this first-of-its-kind event in Canada, so you will want to be sure and get your registration in as soon as possible! While the seven keynote addresses, meals and entertainment are available to everyone, the workshops are on a first-come, first-serve basis. So register soon to get the best choice!

This is an event you will not want to miss, especially if you are someone in the second half of life and are seeking to deepen your spirituality OR if you work with Boomers and older adults OR if you want to explore some of the challenges of this period of life and how you can care for yourself while caring for others.

Come and discover the unique opportunities of this time of life, how you can create a spiritual legacy, and how you can connect your church or community with  younger generations of Canadians.

Check out the following link to learn more!


2018 CANADIAN BOOMERFEST A Celebration and Colloquium on Boomers and Spirituality: Oct. 17th to 19th

Mark your calendars for our upcoming Canadian Boomerfest! This first-of-its-kind event on Boomers and older adult spirituality is one that you do not want to miss! Registration will be available online after April 15th.

For now, here is a preliminary list of workshops:

“New Rituals for New Life Stages”

“The Complexities of Compassion: Caring for Yourself while Caring for Others”

“What’s Wanted and What’s Possible: Responding to Boomers, Xers, and Millennials”

“The Future of Ministry with Boomers”

“Getting a Heart of Wisdom: The Psychological and Spiritual Tasks of Our Elder Years”

“Living Abundantly in the Second Half of Life”

We gratefully acknowledge the support of our sponsors:

The Alfred J. Mitchell Fund of The United Church of Canada Foundation,

The United Church Council of Middlesex Presbytery,

and Siloam United Church, London, ON.


My New Book is now published and ready for purchase. Check it out here!

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I’m so excited to announce that my book is published! You can order a copy online here (paperback, hard cover and e-book versions available). In the future it will be available for sale on Amazon and at Chapters Indigo as well. Thank you to everyone who supported me throughout the book writing process. My hope is that this book will help baby boomers, older adults and their congregations live out God’s calling for their lives. If you order the book, please let me know what you think — I would love to hear your feedback!

About the Book

Re-Designing Your Life: A Practical Spirituality for the Second Half of Life
is a timely and engaging book for living out the second half of your life with spiritual integrity. In this study you are invited to think about your life as a house undergoing renovations where, with God’s grace, you get to design something new and life-giving. Through practical exercises, thought-provoking discussion topics and memorable anecdotes, Re-Designing Your Life will guide you through:

  • Coping with endings, empty-nesting and retirement;
  • Caring for self while caring for elderly parents and grandchildren;
  • Letting go of the things that get in the way of becoming your true self;
  • Creating a spiritual legacy;
  • Strengthening relationships; and
  • Finding your passion in your second half of life.

Re-Designing Your Life is a must-read for pastors, congregations and individuals who want to discover God’s calling in the second half of life. Video resources for group studies are also available.

“She Loves You, Yeah, Yeah, Yeah!”

What songs will you be playing this Valentine’s Day? There are only two more days to go, but lots of wonderful love songs from the sixties from which to choose!

Remember this one by the Beatles? “She Loves You, Yeah, Yeah, Yeah.” It was a big hit in the UK when it was first released in 1963, but it did not really catch on in Canada and the US until the next year when Beatlemania crossed the ocean.

The song popularized the phrase “yeah, yeah, yeah.” Apparently Paul McCartney’s dad wanted them to sing “yes, yes, yes” instead because he thought it sounded more dignified. No doubt there were a lot of English teachers who disapproved too. But it’s a great song and one we all loved to sing back in the day!

Check out this video for more great love songs of the sixties!

Happy Valentine’s Day on Wednesday!

The Best Gift You Can Give Your Grandchild — Happy Groundhog’s Day!

Today, if he were alive, my father would have turned 103 years old. As children, my brother and I loved to tease our Dad on his birthday because it was also Groundhog’s Day. Would the Groundhog see his shadow or not? Would we have six more weeks of winter or not? Back then, we could always count on six or more weeks of winter, regardless of whether the Groundhog saw his shadow or not. Not so anymore! Today we have awakened to a beautiful snowy morning in southwestern Ontario, and my husband and our youngest son are out shoveling our driveway in preparation for the long drive into London for Richard’s work and Malcolm’s university classes. But the other day we enjoyed almost balmy temperatures! Such is the effect of Climate Change!

At our United Church London Conference Social Justice meeting on Wednesday morning, one of our members, Marg Murray, spoke of the critical state in which we find ourselves in terms of climate change. Referring to one of the articles below, Marg reminded us that if we Boomers really want to leave a good legacy to the next generation, we will start by caring for and advocating on behalf of our earth. There is no better gift we can give to our children and grandchildren. If they don’t have an earth on which to live, breathe clean air, drink clean water, and grow crops for food, then nothing else matters!

So, as you celebrate Groundhog’s Day, take a few minutes to read the following articles (see the links below that Marg has provided) and pray for our earth and the children who will inherit it.

Summary of Climate Change Weblinks

Shared at Social Justice Division of London Conference

January 31, 2018

Marg Murray –

We know Climate Change is real.  Normal weather will not return.  We don’t know how it will play out.  I’ve put together the background material from the concerns of which I spoke.

  • From Dianne Saxe, Environmental Commissioner for Ontario who was keynote speaker for a webinair by Faith and the Common Good (Toronto Churches) (See to download the program and/or the slides.) Ms Saxe is an Environmental Lawyer with years of experience on ‘evidence-based material’ for Climate Change.  Like us, her passion comes out of love for her grandchildren. The 20th Century normal Climate is gone, forever. Her 20 minute talk is valuable (some technical difficulties with the webinair).
  • The link between climate change and economic social justice (and the possible collapse of both) described in this article. (See The encouraging note is the work of Dr. Thomas Homer-Dixon of University of Waterloo and their work on the theory of Complexity.
  • Homer-Dixon speaks of Theory of Complexity and the movement from decision making with ‘risks’ to decision making with ‘uncertainty’. Listen to 12 minute clip at


Engaging Congregations in awareness of Climate Change and Adaptation to Climate Change.